Hi all, long time lurker, first time poster. 😅

So, married partner & I, both M35, have been ENM for a bit now, but we have had trouble finding these...well sex clubs/parties that I see people posting about here like it's no big deal to know 3 or 5! Lol 🤯 (how it seems ofc) So the question is: HOW?! lol How does one go about finding or meeting ppl to intro you to em? Any tips, tricks, etc are welcome! Google hasn't worked.

And I guess 1 more quick question while I have y'all: What apps, if any, would y'all recommend for meeting other ENM people? I got invited to try this new app called Candid ENM, but it's only usable on my iPad currently since only iOS version is currently available, but any other apps I've looked into haven't been great experiences. Even Grindr, at least here in DFW, seems like ppl are so weird about being poly/nonmono and will stop talking to me once they know. Not even questions or anything even though I'm always transparent about it. I digress though, but gist is it's very exhausting and hope y'all might have some Helpful insight.

Thanks in advance! 🙏