My wife and I are looking to have a nomonogamis relationship. I've always been a huge horn dog and she is not super sexual. We have GREAT sex in our marriage, but I always want more. This has been an issue for me for many years, and I normally just bottle it up.

We've been slowly talking about it over the years and she has suggested multiple times that I get my needs met outside the house. We talked about it a lot and decided maybe trying an escort would be helpful.

She suggested I get a blowjob and make out with an escort and see how that feels. Great!

We are trying to figure out how to think about the risk of STIs by introducing new people to the relationships.

I'd like to add escorts into my life for the occasional makeout / BJ session without a condom, no sex. I'd like to understand the risks to my sexual health of doing this. I can't seem to find very straight forward answers to the real risks. Herpes / HPV seem like the only risks that last. I will ensure my HPV vaccine is up to date and Herpes sounds like an overblown issue that I'm likely to already have.

Life is full of risk, drinking, flying, skiing, all risk / reward calculation. For how awesome it would be to have a really hot escort from time to time, this seems like an okay risk to take?

Here is what I've gathered. Does this look correct? In my mind this is a reasonable risk to take, what do you think?