( M42) 2.5 yrs into a ENM relationship with my now ex ( F32) 5 mths ago we moved in together at mine - 6 mths ago had a threesome & now she’s fallen in love with her ( f52) and me - but I wasn’t happy to do Poly & we started to argue and I got needy - so I’m now heartbroken & 4 wks later ( now ) we’ve split & she’s moved in with her instead. Since we met 6mths ago, we regularly played as a 3 and I also gave permission to play in their own so it was a kinda friendship thing with play involved.
I don’t think it was planned as we only went round to hers the weekend before the split so that would have been weird behaviour and everything seemed fine My ex looks like a stereotypical lesbian but was more bicurious & admittedly i was trying to get her dress /look more feminine.
But I still respected her and help her evolve into the woman she is today
It was the first time she’d proper fallen for a girl and I knew all about it but didn’t call it off as there was also friendship there between the 3 of us , but more her tbh.
Its doing my head in wanting her back as we were genuinely good together before the 3rd was introduced, moral of the story is - think twice before allowing a 3sum - rules needed How do I find closure ?
My dude you wanted to change her for what? And she probably found someone that was more accepting of who she was. So you wanted a threesome you got the threesome but didn't want to deal with anything they came after the threesome. You don't want to be polyamorous but she loved you and your girlfriend. I just a lot of things don't add up there has to be more in this situation. I get it people fall out of love and this and that but I feel like there is another side we are missing. It just seems like fomo and you didn't get your way so you cut it off.
I misread that part my bad. But there just seems a lot in the story that seems to be missing. What was the argument about jealousy? And needy like how like not wanting to share? Sometimes you just got to look at these things and understand that it's their choice in the end and you can't affect that choice. You can't control what they do and if it's their decision and they know how you feel about it then not much you can do.
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