We're very much interested in ENM. I (24M) opened up to my wife (23F) about my desire to have her seek other men to sleep with about a year ago. We have discussed this thoroughly and openly, and she has told me she is into the idea and fantasy herself.

About her: She's a very beautiful blonde, 5'3".

My concern is that she's very picky. Her fantasy is a baseball, soccer or basketball player who's on a college team or a professional player. Now I absolutely respect her wishes. But I think this might be a catch-22 in moving forward as I don't see how it can happen since I have tried Feeld and a few other apps and haven't come across any such guy. Finding a young professional athlete is not as easy as it sounds!

I love my wife, and if this never happens, so be it. But I was hoping to get some advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation and was able to make it happen regardless. Any advice is appreciated. This is such a great community. Also, do you have any idea how can I find such a guy? It seems pretty improbable.