Hi everyone, first of all I want to express my gratitude for this community. I’ve been reading many posts and they have helped me navigate many aspects of my relationship for a littlle while now.

This is my first post in this community and I’m reaching out because I don’t really know what to do.

For context my partner(25 biF) and I (25hetM) decided to be open whilst being long distance as she had to move away. We set boundaries one of the boundaries being that we weren’t going to sleep with good friends.

I got a call from her recently where she told me that she had broken this boundary. On top of that she hadn’t told her friend that this boundary existed and she had intentionally not told me that she had a previous sexual relationship with this person. She told me that she didn’t want to tell me about this previously relationship because she wanted to be in a relationship with me and she was concerned that I wouldn’t if she had told me. This is obviously something that I would have been okay with if it was communicated but it wasn’t and now I feel very anxious and untrusting.

I still want to pursue a relationship with her as I deeply care about her but I’m struggling to know how to reset boundaries when they were previously broken. I’m trying to communicate my feelings as best I can but obviously I’m struggling abit at times. She has expressed that she wants to try and iso aswell but I don’t know where to go or how to start rebuilding trust.

I would really appreciate any advice.