My nesting partner was sexting a new fling while I was crying uncontrollably in the other room. We had just had an argument over a recurrent conflict, and we were trying to talk it out. I took a 10 minute break to go calm down because I was very emotional.
I’m not sure how to feel about this? I’m definitely hurt and I feel disrespected.
He’s at work. I sent him a text explaining what happened and he is on his way back. Said we’ll talk.
What is there to even talk about?
What would you in this situation? How would you address this?
Another, smaller part of the story: We have a D/s dynamic when we have sex. We had an agreement that we would only use the honorific “baby” between us, but he has flouted that for this person as well.
lol that’s a shitty thing to do, but more than that I wouldn’t want to be with someone who was that good at compartmentalization, because at the end of the day you’re gonna feel not cared for. If my partner was hurt the last thing on my mind would be sexting anyone else.😐
taking 10 minutes is not the same as stopping the conversation. If you phrased it in a way that was obviously taking that time as a break and that’s how he used it I’d personally be hurt but also low key scared, lol. I would never want to date that kind of person. Whether it be nefarious or not, it points to a general lack of compassion / a removal from your emotions that is extremely clinical and ultimately will leave you hurt if it’s a pattern / personality type thing.
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