Looking for some advice on where to go from here. My spouse(30m) and I(30f) have been in a monogamous relationship for 11 years, married for 7. After taking some time to focus on myself and taking control of my life(which feels like the first time ever), we’ve both begun to realize that our relationship/marriage has been very unfulfilling and hindering to our individual growths and needs. I have also started to come to terms with that fact that my sexual attraction is most definitely towards women/same sex and not men. While I have been content to be with him for this long and I don’t want to be completely separated from him, we’ve both agreed that our sexual relationship has been over for a while. I grew up in a very conservative environment so it was very “heteronormative or nothing” and I feel this has influenced me to adapt to this relationship. I feel so guilty for having just realized/admitted honestly that I don’t have a sexual attraction to them and I’m at a place in life where I want to prioritize my needs. Our relationship has had a dynamic where I have basically been the caretaker of my spouse while having my needs being left unfulfilled. Obviously, he is feeling guilty by thinking he should have done things differently and been more of a partner but I don’t think it would have changed the outcome ultimately. We both definitely still want to cohabitate and be supporting partners for each other but how do we go about redefining our relationship ship together and coming to terms with this while also talking about the idea of having other partners while remaining a partnership together? He is completely open to me finding another romantic relationship in the distant future where I can have my needs met. If this even makes sense that way. We can’t imagine not living with together, supporting one another, and just enjoying each other’s company but there is obviously a need for other partners in, at least, my life. I don’t think he is at a point to consider another relationship for himself but I am open to him needing to do so for himself. Thanks in advance if there’s any advice to give here.