I (M) recently made a connection with someone and we agreed our relationship was akin to a comet/FWB situation as we both live about two-and-a-half hours apart and don’t have time for frequent meetups. She has been wanting to see me more and more, however, and has been asking to meet up again soon (our last meetup was about two weeks ago). She mentioned last weekend and I was very non-committal as I’ve been going through a lot of personal struggles as of late and my mental health is just not where I want it to be. I’ve told her as much and she’s been understanding.

Ultimately I decided not to go visit her because I was not feeling great mentally and couldn’t really commit to any kind of “sexy” interaction. Since then she’s been giving me a bit of a razzing about “rejecting” her. I know it’s meant to be in jest somewhat but I can also tell she’s hurt. Considering how I’m feeling right now mentally, I took it a little more personally than I should have and have stopped our frequent banter.

I know I’m ultimately the asshole here because I’ve been very non-committal about meeting up in general but I feel like I’ve explained why every step of the way. We have also met up three times in the last two months, which I feel is even more frequent than we agreed upon when we first started talking for the type of situation we are involved with.

I guess my question here is what can I say to convey that I’m a little hurt by her reaction to me not being able to hang out, or should I take it on the chin since I’m the one really hurting her here?