all is still good, for those reading my updates.

Buuuut I have a sticky little agreement I asked for that I think I need to change my mind on. Thats where the needing advice comes in.

For hookups, we asked for a heads up notice prior to the hookup. So hookups to some degree have to be scheduled. We never discussed this for FWB's, I just always assume for that, that sex is on the table and probably will happen.

And that's the part where my math ain't mathin'. Why should he have to give me a heads up for hookups, not FWB's?

I mean, if its off an online dating app, I'll know anyway. He's gotta leave the house to go, and he wont lie if I ask where he's going so asking for a heads up again makes no sense to me but if its randomly out and about, it makes no sense either. And if he finds one while at work and decides to go after, he'll call me to let me know out of sheer excitement and I know that. It makes absolutely no sense to me.

The reason for that, my husband has ADHD (so do I) and we get caught up in the moment, ALL THE TIME. I know for fact, it'll happen at least once during our ENM experience.

And then it'll be "you broke our agreement!" followed by pain. I don't like pain. I'd rather deal with anxiety. Not even gonna lie. Plus, I feel like everyone deserves at least one spontaneous hookup in their lives if they choose to.

I think I'm nixxing this agreement tomorrow. Am I overthinking this?