Hi. I haven't done an update in a while, so I figured I'd do one.

We talked about the concept that very few really discuss and work through. What happens if you catch feelings? Because sex hanging out romantic dates talking frequently = feelings 9/10 unless you're the 1/10 that's an aquarius or a robot.

(Aquarius's do have feelings, but they're really good at keeping the friends level just that, even with feelings I've noticed in my own astrological practice. Believe it or not, Scorpios are hella good at doing it too, but I digress. You would THINK a sag could, but they can't. 🤣)

We have decided that we will check in with each other on where they are at emotionally, and we will help each other keep things in the perspective we need to. Neither of us want polyamory. We can't give the types of commitments it requires. We don't have the spoons.

We make amazing friends but shitty ass partners and I wish more people could recognize that in themselves. There is a difference.

We discussed that you could fall in love with a friend, and still remain friends. All the things that couples do, friends can do. Its usually done less frequently though. Thats the difference. At least for us.

So, yay. We're doing the work!

My hubs got a new match today, she's super pretty and they have a lot in common. That triggered me a little, but I self soothed.

I'm doing REALLY well with that. I'm happy he's found someone he can jive with like that.

Me and him decided that he could do hookups spontaneously, or, as spontaneously as possible. I get a text before hand basically letting me know its happening. So every day while he goes out for job hunting, I prepare for the moment I could get that text.Surprisingly, the triggers are manageable. Don't know how it'll go when we get there, but y'all will be like, top 5 to know 🤣🤣🤣🤣 When he's gone out specifically looking for a hookup in the past I've been fine. I don't suspect when he actually gets one it'll be too hard, but we'll see.

I made a match with a man, now y'all don't know this but I have an incredible fear of men, but seemingly enough if I attempt to date one shorter than me, its fine. That tells me its a safety issue but you know what, we're rolling with it. 🤣🤣🤣 He's a cutie, and he's super sweet.

One of my other fwb's kinda fell off. Bless her heart send her good vibes please, she's going through a lot.

My other FWB is kinda quiet but she's got a heavy work load, so I get it.

One of my husbands FWB's treated him like shit there for a minute. I ate it, and ate it, and ate it. He's free to make his own choices, and I don't have to like them, but I don't get a say unless its abusive. He finally caught on though and let her go. Thank the gods because I seriously thought steam was gonna start coming outta my ears soon. I'm SUPER protective of him. He's sensitive. I'll make a person eat their teeth over my little butter bean. (He's damn near 6 ft, but he's still my little butter bean. I'll yeet you into the void over hurting his heart. I'm a witch and a baneful one. Try ya mama, not me sugar. No, I didn’t throw her in a jar. I wanted to though....but I didn’t. It was shitty behavior, but not abusive. I don't have the jars or the money to waste spell ingredients like that, and honestly it feels petty and like something out of 10th grade to hex over that.)

Uh, yeah, I think I covered everything.

Y'all are great for being so supportive and reading my little updates. I don't really have anyone to talk to or any friends where I live who would understand this, and all my other friends are kinda busy. So, yeah, don't forget that, okay? 🥰

Oooh, while I'm here, are there any podcasts y'all would recommend? I've read some books but I'm an audio person too.

Thank y'all!