Hi everybody.

I (32m) would like to ask, how you all feel, or felt, when you as a non-monogamous oriented person were in a closed realtionship? Which thought did you have? Was it easy to keep your desires under control? Was your stress, health affected?

I've been through a self-acceptance path for a while and I think this might be the situation I lived through all my life. Being with one person for me is important but not a single fragment of my soul can accept the fact that all the feelings I have for others are wrong, and despite my efforts in confining them, they only growed over time.

In the past I jumped from one relation to another, and regardless of how perfect my partner could have been, the desire to have intimacy and discovering other people has always constantly be present.

I only cheated one partner in the past and after that I promised myself to never do it again, which makes me feel better, but at the same time more constricted.

As I would like to inform my monogamous partner about my orientation, I would like to hear your feedback, to convalidate that this might be my actual reality, and not just a phase. Thanks anyone read through all this and kind enough to share, it is really very much appreciated.