Hi. Mostly writing to organize my thoughts.

My (31F) partner (29M) and I have been together more or less for three years. Did long distance the last year and I moved to his new city almost three months ago. He's had another partner (?NB) in the new city for just over a year, I believe.

Admittedly there's been a lot of miscommunication and assumptions at the beginning of our relationship and also in regards to his other relationship.

I'm trying really hard to communicate and be open about my feelings but I struggle feeling guilty expressing myself. I worry I stress him out and make him want to push me away.

My birthday is coming up next week. I'm supposed to work the whole following weekend but I have this Sunday off. I was hoping to be able to do a birthday hang out with my partner. He told me yesterday that his other partner wants to see him Thursday night (totally fine, no issues there) and that they have a friend doing a birthday thing Saturday and he's going to that too.

This is where I feel hurt. He spends a lot of time with me during the week, so I have no issues at all with him spending time with his other partner and friends. I just feel hurt because I was hoping for a birthday weekend with him without stress of work the following day for either of us.

I know I should have communicated more clearly that this was the weekend I have off and want to do something. I think my feelings are stemming a bit from resentment due to a few other things;

In the time we've been together he's never met any of my family and has only properly met one set of my friends. I found out the other week he has met his other partners family and he is obviously included in their friend network as he's going to the birthday celebration this weekend with them. This makes me feel like I'm on the outside looking in and he's not interested in being a full part of my life. Also, more silly things, but he follows his other partners business account on social media and not mine (admittedly theirs is a bit more interesting; art related while mine is more manual physical therapy work). It also hurts because I've seen that he likes every single one of their posts on their personal and business media but he doesn't engage with mine at all. His other partner has posted cute pictures of them together. But he's always told me he prefers to keep low profile and not share personal relationships much on social media, which I respect and I've dialed down sharing about him on my socials.

It sounds really silly. He spends usually 5-6 nights with me a week, and I'm grateful for our time together. I'm just sad that maybe quantity of time doesn't equal to quality.

There's a lot more ins and outs to what I'm simply writing here. Not even sure what exactly I'm looking for posting here. Just a place to vent I guess.