Me and my partner have been together for a year and eight months. My partner had been identifying as poly for about two years before we got together. There have been tough discussions around boundaries set around the topic but we still find ourselves returning to the convo. I tend to get jealous easily (this is my first serious relationship) about things I should not such as hearing my partner say someone is cute for example or him talking about being poly and liking it. We even have tried threesomes but I have not had the best experience with them. I get so nervous to the point where I can’t get aroused and when I do, I end up busting quickly then I’m just lying there while my partner and the other are still going at it

This has happened twice and we haven’t tried since. It’s weird, I feel like I would like them but idk. I if the people that are chosen or maybe I’m holding back. While it’s happening, my partner does kiss and rub on me to make me feel involved. He has also told me that he does love me and if we were to bring anyone into our bed, it wouldn’t affect our relationship. I believe him but I think since I’m Monogamous I forget at times and get into the feels when I shouldn’t have. For clarity, my partner does not have other relationships or sex with others but I do think they would prefer a third with us from time to time. We had a conversation last night and he told me that I was stopping that part of him from being expressed

and he’s cut that part of him off! My partner is depressed to the point where he doesn’t wanna take the dog out, be affectionate, etc. He’s also depressed about noting wanting to start his career (lost interest in the field)…plus he has stopped smoking weed. He’s been smoking for years. Can someone please give me sold advice. We’re a gay couple btw