First of, I’d like to apologize as I am sure there are similar posts on here and I just didn’t scroll long enough to find them.

My wife and I are in an open relationship that only grants each other permission for sexual encounters with other people. This has been fairly successful in the sense that neither of us feel jealous or have been upset when the other has hooked up with someone.

The issue (this part I have seen on this subreddit before) is that she has a tremendous amount more hookups than I do. I suppose I do feel some jealousy at times, but it more just makes me aware of the fact that I either suck at the whole dating/hook up scene, or am just not appealing. My lack of experience with other people is also not for lack of effort. I’ve tried dating apps (I hate them) and go to the gym and out to various bars/places often. I like in a small community though and tbh saying I’m married has lead to things backfiring more than once, but I also want to be transparent. I guess I am stewing in my own frustration about this and was curious about other people’s thoughts/ advice. Also, just to clarify, when me and my partner are together everything is great and we do actually talk about this issue, but are both puzzled. Thanks for reading.