Hi non monog online friends (and the one irl person who knows my Reddit account)

Sharing a lovely story over three years in the making.

I met a couple at the beginning of the pandemic and due to life etc we remained penpals for most of it.

Recently we began meeting in person, which was awesome and just chilling, platonically.

I became solo-polyam in November 2022 when my husband and I separated officially due to my sexuality, as I identified as a lesbian and cannot have emotionally connected, sexual relationships with a male partner. This took several years to come to terms with and bring up and the guilt I have over my ability to have emotionally disconnected sex with dudes is still there but unfortunately it's who I am.

So since November I've really been examining my sexuality, and I've discovered that while I can only have romantic relationships with women, I enjoy sex with everyone. So I see myself as omnisexual, and homoromantic.

I also discovered that I will no longer date couples as a unit, I need to be able to explore my relationships fully and offer each person in my life a bespoke, unrestricted experience.

I brought this up with the couple and we began negotiating. The long talks and texts and calls were so eye opening and lovely. They had never dated or played separately so it required a LOT of truth and trust, plus I encouraged "communication at all costs".

I had my first solo experience with one half of the couple (and it was their first solo experience without their partner since they've met many years ago) 3 nights ago. It was, without turning this into a smutpost, absolutely some of the best sex of my life. Top ten. I'm in the clouds still and likely glowing.

I've checked in with them both, things are okay so far.

I'm really excited. I'm so happy to be trusted in such an intimate way.

It took so much work for me to get here as a person - when I started polyam 20 years ago I was a jealous, insecure mess. I'm incredibly proud of myself and I'm also humbled and grateful.

And I'll take the other half on a date as soon as I can 🖤

TLDR: blew up my marriage, my life, discovered I'm a super slut (again), failed upwards as a unicorn, had some of the best sex of my life, plans to continue