So I have a legit question, not for fantasy. My wife and I have had a shared fantasy with another guy joining us for an mfm for over 10 years, as we have slowly progressed on what that would look like we were chatting out of the bedroom about the best possible person. I don’t know if there is “the best type of person”, I think it is more based on the actual person, chemistry, etc.

We’ve gone back-and-forth on a single guy, married guy, open relationship, swinger…

Single would be easy, but discretion and respect for my wife and my marriage is a concern. The married guy aspect seems nice in the fact that they want to be safe, discreet, etc. but ethically that is just not us….

We are leaning closer to the second two, someone in a swinger relationship that plays solo or even better just an open relationship guy, we actually want to have a connection with the guy and her, someone she actually wants to sleep with … I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has suggestions, advice, etc., I know not just fantasy. We are looking to actually start this into the next phase, thoughtful, smart, and we don’t want to get burned.