Me and my Girlfriend are in an open relationship specifically online where we both met a guy that we really like and I've started to allow her to talk to him in any way she wants. This has progressed into quite a bit of flirting, Phone Sex, Nudes and genuine feelings being exchanged. She recently admitted to really liking him, potentially even loving him and I'm okay with that. I want her to pursue that and it does make me happy to let her do so as I also get a perfect "view" into it all as she's given me access to all of her logs between him and what not.

My problem stems from this largely being a sexual thing for me to get really excited and eventually have an earth shattering orgasm and her want out of it seems to be largely focused on the feelings and has a complete lack of desire to be sexual with him or me as of recently.
It's difficult for me to understand where to go here as I do like both aspect.
I love the feelings part and I love the sexual part, but I think I love the sexual part a bit too much more.

I don't want to pressure her into being more sexual, even when she ends up blueballing both of us but it's a large reason I agree to this while also potentially being something I can shelf for the time being so she can pursue some romantic feelings.
The question is, should I? Should I be trying to disconnect the sexual aspect from it for the time being and allow her to explore? She doesn't seem to want to try and really dislikes being pressured to much (Which I promptly stopped very quickly) into sexual situations with him.

I could definitely be the asshole here, I'm not sure. I've been really unsure about all this, I'm going to try to disconnect that sexual part of it for me for the time being and try to let her just pursue those romantic feelings and see where it goes. I don't want to stop her when she took so long to have the courage to even tell me that she likes him in a romantic way but I also have my own desires and even them being romantic together is enough to get me going, which might result in my focusing too hard on the sexual aspect due to being turned on. Appreciate any help, this is all very new to me.