I’ve been ENM for 5 years (F 31) and my husband (M 35) and I were swingers for the first two years. We really enjoyed our swinging time together and we came up with some great and healthy adjustable boundaries but it was very clear we both wanted more meaningful dynamics with those we were engaging with.

On the third year we opened to solo and poly dating, I dated a couple people that were so new to ENM they couldn’t identify as being poly, they weren’t that ethical even, and those dynamics collapsed because they were just used to how monogamy works. Not to mention, and aside from that, they also had avoidant attachment styles and tendencies.

So fast forward to year 5, I met a man (M 31) who is also married (we both have the nesting and anchor partner dynamic in common). He and his wife had been open for 3 years, but he also hadn’t had the opportunity to date someone “poly” either.

We now have been dating for four months. He is sitting across the table from me and tells me how much he enjoys our connection that bloomed into a really nice and serious relationship. To express myself comes easy but its not always easy for others to do - And its so nice to hear that someone has mutual feelings.

The sex is great and has been a little kinky and definitely wild. We also report back to each other a lot on our self-growth throughout the weeks too. One of the great perks of dating is encouraging others and being encouraged to be your best self.

We have been riding some really good NRE, I mean its like blushing non stop. I think we will continue to have some good and evolving chemicals!