Hello!
My husband and I (33F) have been NM for awhile now. He currently has another partner who he sees about once a week and I enjoy hanging out with her every once in awhile as a friend as well.
I've been going on dates independently myself with the intent on finding a FWB partner of my own. Most of the time when I go on dates with men and they hear that I want an fwb, they assume that I want to jump into bed almost instantly upon meeting with them. This is not the case with me. I actually want a "friend" with sexual benefits.
The second group of men will hear fwb and assume after the first date that there must be some type of "romantic" connection. For example, I went on a date with a guy last night, we both said we enjoyed each others company, but he didn't feel a "romantic" feeling and wanted to be just friends...like we both said we wanted a fwb, I'm not sure what romance has to do with this...
Just for some context this is usually what I say when I tell guys what I'm looking for and what I mean by an fwb: "I want an intimate companion, I'm not looking for a quick hook up. I want to get to know someone, have fun with them and also have an intimately sexual relationship with them. But I also don't need all the lovey-dovey romantic stuff"
Actually my fwb wants to hear about my day and everything I’m into. Because at the end of the day we are friends first.
I don’t want just a fuck buddy. If I wanted that I would have found that ages ago.
I went on a date with a guy last night, we both said we enjoyed each others company, but he didn't feel a "romantic" feeling and wanted to be just friends
I can't really know what he was thinking, but it sounds like he was trying to be nice, and just didn't feel attracted to you.
Your approach seems fine.
I don’t post any more because of how Reddit fucked over 3rd party apps.
Actually I’ve lost weight, 8 pounds to be exact since I last posted content. Not that it is any of your business.
You sound like the type of person I would never want in my life. Especially in a sexual capacity.
Yikes lol I’m good, I’ll stay dramatic 😂.
When it comes to my life and my body I will be selective and as picky as I want.
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Cis men don’t understand the difference between fuck buddy and fwb. When they hear fwb they just jump to sex. It’s like no bud I wanna be FRIENDS TOO. So frustrating!
Thankfully I’ve been able to find a guy that understands the friendship portion as much as the sex portion. Maybe it helps that he’s older and seemingly more mature? I’m not sure.