Hi guys. I have been struggling the last few months. I (26m) have been dating my boyfriend (28m) for two years. We have been nonmonogamous from the start although I dont see people outside of him and he does besides we have threesomes sometimes

For the past year or so he hasn't been seeming interested in having sex with me and its been maybe once or twice a month or less. Its really getting to me. We had to move last year so I can understand the stress of that but its just been such a long time of it

I dont want to pressure him I feel like it makes things worse, I know he loves me but its just so hard not to feel gross, undesirable, like I did something wrong or am ugly, bad at sex, ect

Throughout this time though he has been seeing other people. I can understand it like going to see someone outside of your regular life like the vibes are just different

But at the same time it hurts that he's off getting fucked and im just stuck home alone waiting for him to come back only for him to be covered in marks from some other guy and show no interest in me at all. Its just been really hard

I want to talk to him about maybe not being open for a while until I feel more secure, since this has been bad enough that I am feeling like self harming and am depressed all the time

But on the other hand, taking away his ability to see other people isn't going to make him want me. And it feels kind of wrong although I only think of it because he asked me about it before when he was feeling insecure

I dont know, logically I can understand him seeing other people doesn't mean there is something wrong with me, but at the same time it just hurts so bad for him to see other people and then come home and not want me

Any advice? Do you guys think asking to close the relationship for now would do anything to help or is that just pointless?