My husband had a first date with a woman and he said things went well. Then he told me that the woman said she would not take things further with him unless she could talk with me first.

Background info: hubs and I are looking for separate play partners and there is never an intention to involve each other intimately. We do speak often and openly about our possible dates, there is honesty across the board but I never intended to witness his other relationships first hand.

That said, I understand the need to verify. I was only the slightest bit annoyed by having to text this woman, but mostly because the second time hubs asked he made it a “please do this right now” sort of request, and at the time I was entirely out of steam for the day. But I sent her a text.

And now my husband’s possible FWB is making small talk with me at all random times of the day. She and I are both stay at home moms so I get the randomness and that’s not the issue. It’s just that I really do not want to make friends with her. I barely have the energy or time to make friends with MY own possible FWB and honestly I do not want to get into the history of my favorite tv shows with a woman I never intend to meet.

I don’t want to come off as rude or pushy (and I think this post got a bit rant-like, apologies for that) but how do I ask her to get to the damn point already? I’d really like to stop the small talk, but I’m afraid she wants to be friends. I’m realizing she and I have a lot of things in common and I’m starting to get uncomfortable.

Thanks for reading, I’m open to suggestions on how to get this to stop.