I 28F have been married to my husband 30M for 3 years monogamously. I love him and he is the one I want to be with, but I feel like I never got the chance to fully explore my sexuality before marrying. I love sex with him, but I am interested in MORE and having fun with what’s out there!

I lost my virginity at 15 to my boyfriend I stayed with until 21. From 21-23 I was single and had fun exploring Tinder on a “sex-capade”, but of course thats where I met my now husband, so I wasn’t fully through with my sexual explorations when we met.

I have told him that I slept with a few girls while single, and when we get kinky we watch lesbian porn together so it’s on his radar. A few years ago he joked about having a threesome with another girl and of course I jumped at the idea, but he kind of laughed it off saying we could never find the right person since we both agreed it would have to be someone neither of us know. We have never bluntly spoken about it since then, about 2 years ago at this point.

I want to have a threesome and / or his permission to sleep with women occasionally, and I’m really urging for it before we have kids in the next few years.

Advice I’m seeking: How do I talk to him about this without making him feel like there is something wrong with him? How do I explain that I truly want to be with him and only him as my life partner and have a family with; but I want to try out threesomes, sex with other girls, and maybe even sex parties?

Side note: I would LOVE for him to be involved and participate in this with me, ie threesomes or he watches me with girl(s).