I (22 enby) am recently exploring non monogamy and finding it very hard to deal with. I noticed that some groups of people usually have a harder time getting comfortable with it, like people used to live in survival mode, people who grew up in hostil environments, POCs who have dealt with fetishization and being discarded for white ppl, etc...Violence and trauma really affects our emotional needs and the way we build relationships. PLEASE understand that this is what I see from my experience and also from the experience of the community that surrounds me. I'm fully aware that some of us can live happy non monogamous relationships, that's why I'm making this post. The majority of NM people that I know are white and privileged. I feel like they don't get it when I talk about what makes NM difficult for me. I would really appreciate people with a similar life experience telling how non monogamy turned fine for them and how they dealt with these difficulties to make it safe for them.