We started our non monogamy recently and I had intercourse twice with women other than my girlfriend of 6 years. Twice they sucked me without condom. Even though I am aware of some risk, I always understood to be lower than the one usually associated with PIV and Anal, as also I understand the social norm on the subject is to have unprotected oral (both ways)

I casually told my girls this today and she was pretty upset. We took the decision of not trying to anticipate everything and being a bit ad hoc in regards of the non monogamy. She was upset. Going forward we obviously will find a common ground (I hope something like constant sti tests and a bit of regular partners)

Nonetheless, I the asshole for having unprotected oral sex?