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My girlfriend and I have decided to do a one way open for her to explore her bisexuality with other women. It took a lot for me to find the space in my heart for her to do this as I’m anxiously attached, but we have a very strong relationship and emotionally invested relationship. We set rules and open communication about it every step of the way.
I initially struggled with her and the idea of being sexually involved with anyone but me, but I’ve gotten over that idea as I know I can’t give her what she wants that way and I really support the idea of her discovering that part of herself.
Initially I we discussed a unicorn type scenario where we would have another woman join us, but because of her anxious attachment issues she just couldn’t get into the idea of me being with another woman (and honestly I’m not really into that as well because she really gives me everything I ever wanted in a partner). So we decided she would go it alone and form her own connections.
She posted to some online groups about ideas where to meet women for this and FetLife was a very consistent answer, so she created an account and had some interactions with a few women but nothing became of it. She put it out there that she wanted friends first, then maybe something more if it was there.
After about 3 weeks she decided to delete the account because she wasn’t getting the type of intelligent interaction she craves (she’s very sapiosexual) and also a lot of unwanted messages from men too (even though she clearly stated no men as she is not interested in that)
Is there any advice on where to meet women for her that I can potentially help her with exploring herself this way? She has a lot of trauma based interactions with women as she’s BBW and not overly confident on her looks (she gorgeous!) More than anything I can tell she’s sad about not getting to know some women to connect with as i made her feel safe to do so.
Thanks for the support!
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