We’ve been together for over 2 years. She started the conversation about it and I wasn’t at all surprised. She’s expressed her desire for sexual exploration before and wants to experiment with females and also be open to playing with other men. I’m a little older and have had the freedom to do a fair bit of sexual exploration and I’m largely happy with monogamy. I was happy to try it with her in the beginning and was very open in the first rounds of discussions about it. It could be a lot of fun.

But as I’ve had a bit more time to process it I’m starting to lean a little bit more toward the fact that I may just simply be a monogamous person. I like the idea of ENM, but I’m not sure it’s for me. I’ve even started getting quite anxious about the prospect, losing a little sleep and becoming emotional. Neither of us have even made a move since we start chatting about it 5 or 6 weeks ago.

Has anyone else had the experience of being anxious/emotional about it but came to enjoy it? I really want to give it a go but a part of me doesn’t want to go through the potential heartache - it feels as though it’s already begun. I brought it up last night and I felt as though my feelings and concerns were quickly dismissed. It was the first time in these talks that I didn’t feel like we were a team. Does anyone have any advice? I’m at a loss for words and on what to do.