I know a lot of people are against one sided open relationships. This isn’t a power imbalance we both love her being open.

Wife has been talking to a guy, I know him, he knows me. not well just from around town. decent guy.

I’m gone this weekend for 3 nights.

Nothing is scheduled but she has debated getting a night to her self and having sex with him. I am fine with that. We have talked about this for a few years and this will be her first time.

My only issue is that I am going to be out, i’ll be busy and occupied and there won’t be reliable communication (house boat). which will leave me with a “is she, did she” and i do find that incredibly hot, but 3 nights is a long time to feel that.

i would prefer she met with him before and then if she wanted to take advantage of a weekend alone i would be fine with it. cause i would assume they would and i feel like that would take the edge off for me. it’s the wondering that is going to get to me.

we explored a bit with another guy and she went to his place one night after a night out expecting to have sex, but he was too caught up on talking to her about his past relationship and she lost interest with him, I expected her to come home and tell me she had. but it was a let down for both of us when she told me what had happened

we’ve talked about her having sex this weekend. He is very on board, he is younger, enjoying being single and would be interested in a non committed FWB.

she knows how i feel about this weekend. it’s not that i don’t want her to explore it, it is more that i’m not looking forward to 3 days of sexual frustration form the anxiety. again i will be busy with my friends and having fun. so there is no other place i would rather be for that experience. half of them also know we are exploring this. so i do have some people to at least get it off my chest.

Not really sure what i’m asking, i’m currently just trying to get my head in a spot where i am “it’s happening” rather than “is it going to”. it will still drive me crazy but i feel like a change in thought process will make it easier.