My partner and I have been together for almost 4 years. We agreed from the start that our relationship would not be monogamous, but we started to live together after only a couple of months.

Since then, we have never been apart for more than one week (and that only happened once). After less than one year together, our sex life was reduced to nothing.

We never really actively dated other people. My partner had a few crushes and shared her feelings with me, but nothing happened - no dating, no sex. A couple of months ago she was to hook up with some guy met online, but he didn't show up.

We did couple therapy a few months ago and it went pretty well. We dealth with past trauma and it strenghtened our relationship, but we also acknowledged that we need our spaces and we must do something soon because living together and always going out together doesn't leave any room for exploration.

I should also mention that one year ago she started doing online sex work (OnlyFans, etc.).

Lately, I've been really struggling. I'm very stressed. I am starting to really crave sex and passion badly, it gets pretty fucking painful at times. I've gotten insanely sensitive to sexual stuff and I can't stand it any longer.

Masturbation is not an option for me. I don't enjoy it and it's really hard to get there. I am a transexual MtF person and have been on hormone replacement therapy for almost 7 years.

My partner masturbates regularly and she doesn't struggle as much as I do with the lack of sex. That's what she told me.

Now, I come here asking for some kind of opinion... What do you think we should do? I love my partner. For the most part, I love living together. At the same time, I need passion, sexual passion... Magic. Even as I'm writing this, it fucking hurts.

I want to do things right. I don't want to hurt her.

I've considered every option: online dating, sex parties, hooking up with a sex worker,... None of these options look good, they all make me very uncomfortable.

My gender, my looks and my personality don't make things easier when it comes to looking for a suitable sex partner. I'm shy, kind of difficult sometimes, and I'm not into men.

What would you suggest? Is there something else I should consider?