So, 28f dating 31m, we’ve been together around 2 and a half years. We are eachothers primary partners and we do not date or form emotional connections outside of eachother. We have a dom/sub relationship, he has had threesomes prior to me where I had zero. In the past 5 months we’ve had two threesomes. The first one went terrible, no fault of our own, we were sort of “catfished” online by the girl, we decided to just see it through and honestly have a good memory to laugh at now. Anyways, the second one was last weekend. I would say it went 50/50. It started off really well but for some reason I could not shake the feelings of insecurity/jealousy (at the same time being completely turned on). I tried really hard to not show it on my face. My partner is very supportive in not wanting me to feel left out and looking back a lot of my feelings in that moment I brought onto myself battling my intrusive thoughts…

My issue is letting myself go and letting my ego fade in these situations. I want to feel secure, I know I am desired and loved by my partner so why am i having so much doubt? I’ve read through many posts on here and it seems like most successful threesome situations need chemistry between all parties. While I did find the woman attractive, we didn’t really “mesh” together and that made me feel weird as well. Also I am a switch, or I want to aspire to be that, my partner and I both get off on the idea dominating someone together. However, in these threesomes it’s been hard as fuck for me to turn on that dominant side even tho I crave that sooooo much. I genuinely feel like I don’t know where to begin.