just looking for opinions and expectations when it comes to communicating with one partner when with another. for context, my partner and i are both new to poly and find the positives that come with ENM/poly. however, this is the first weekend he is spending with someone who isnt me. its someone who he was intimate with once before he and i started dating. i am really struggling with wanting the best for him but also just inherently feeling scared and threatened since this is the first time im experiencing something like this. is it too much for me to ask to hear from him at least once a day while hes with her? am i just supposed to just be okay with not hearing from him and dealing with all these big feelings myself? ive reached out to friends but none of them really understand poly and though they support me i sometimes feel weird coming to them with these struggles. to experienced poly people: what was it like knowing your partner was spending a significant amount of time with someone else for the first time and how did you compartmentalize your fears and truly believe that no matter what happens over the weekend, what you and your partner have is special and important?