My wife and I are in a relationship with another couple. My best friend's wife is my girlfriend and he is my wife's boyfriend. The wives are bisexual and in a relationship with each other as well.

There is no lack of love in either marriage. Both married couples are still in love with their primary partners. We just love more than one person.

We moved in together back in March. We're raising our kids together. We've merged our finances together. We've come out to our relatives and do not hide what we are from our neighbors.

For this June update, I would like to share a voting system that has really moved us forward as a quad. Because everything is merged together, we have to make choices together. We have "four person decisions" we have to make. Early on, we did poorly in this area. We were very accustom to working as a couple and sort of informing the other couple of a decision we'd already made. It caused a lot of grief and made folks feel inferior. In the last few weeks, we have gotten really good at talking these things through as a quad and finally giving our "I" as a vote. This simple thing has made everyone feel better.

Another interesting thing is happening between the primary partners. Both couples have been married for over ten years. In that time, certain romantic gestures fade. Cuddling, kisses, hand holding, giving flowers - these things can fade over the years. Joining together as a quad has awoken these forgotten customs. Being in a new relationship, you can get struck by the desire to grab your new partner's hand or put your arm around her. Instead, I will grab my wife's hand or put my arm around her. It's happening on both sides. The primary partners are snuggling more and kissing more. The sex has gotten better as well. Somehow this new relationship has reminded something that has always been there it just became dormant over the years. It's a wonderful process to experience.

Anyway, Reddit thinks we're nuts, traumatizing our children, making choices we will regret so on and so fourth. I did, however, promise updates.