My (30M) wife (30F) and I have been married for 10 years. We recently jumped into nonmonogamy with initially great exuberance, however I quickly lost all desire to do it. I learned that I'm really just looking for platonic friendships, however my wife has learned this is a part of her core identity. I've asked to stop NM 4 times in the last two months, and each time I've been met with great resistance, accusations of being an unaccepting partner, pauses that I thought were being honored, and a big gaping hole in my heart. I'm not cut out for this, but she's adamant about NM being how she wants to live the rest of her life. Are we just hosed, or do I just need to get over it and let her get her freak on? We have 3 kids together, so the thought of her choosing NM over me is a lot for me to grasp.