Hey guys,

Long-term poly here. Right now expanding my experience with kink and group sex. Male and straight-ish (I realize these are cons in this space). Seems to be an important kink/thing to try for me, and tried giving up on this in the past but keeps on coming up as a fantasy.

I have access to several sex parties but in the past have been too shy (though I am good at small talk, etc) lately have been better.

I have gone to parties with partners in the past but for the most part, have stuck to ourselves.

Went to my first sex party of my own last month and had great experiences playing and doing scenes (after like 4 years of trying) . but wondering how to progress to group sex.

Cons: Male, Mostly solo (I can conjure up a partner if need be), Straight-ish, Seem extrovert but could be shy

Pros: Above average looks, height, friendly, respectful, at least one female partner willing to play.

Any tips? I am considering building a mixture of community and attending parties but for those of you who are successful males or know successful males in your community would love to know the secret.