Julie, my husband’s girlfriend moved into our house a couple of months ago, just until her new apartment was finished. We started out taking baby steps with almost no PDA outside of the bedrooms, that lasted less than a week and we went from limited PDA to group cuddling to finally having a couple of threesomes. Which was a feat because Julie didn’t think she would ever be comfortable watching him and another woman, but we eased her into it and she didn’t see me as “another woman” competition wise so it went well. She has been a joy to have around the house and we have become even closer friends than we were before.

But all good things must come to an end and we got word this week that her new apartment would be ready next week and she could start painting and moving in. Today before my husband Chris came home from the gym Julie asked to talk to me. She said her time here has been nothing short of wonderful and all the doubts she had before she moved in have disappeared and the last month has been ideal. And that there was a lot she was going to miss when she moved out. Then she asked me how all of this has been for me? I told her once the ice was broken and we relaxed most of our boundaries it has been great. And then the other shoe dropped, she asked if maybe this was something we could continue, if it was okay with me. She wouldn’t want to do it if I had any reservations or if it would cause any resentment between us. I said I did miss being alone in the house with Chris and being able to be attacked on the couch or in the kitchen, something that had gone away with her in the house most of the time. I asked her about if she ever started dating anyone else if she wouldn’t rather have her own place to entertain. She really hasn’t dated anyone for a couple of years since she her NP moved away except for Chris. I asked Julie if she had talked to Chris about it and how he felt about it but she said she didn’t want to say anything to him until we had talked because in her mind this was my house and marriage and ultimately my decision or at least my blessing. I told her I needed to sleep on it and she understood.

A couple of weeks ago my girlfriend was able to move her mother to the city and into an assisted living center and is now back into my life and I have been spending 40% of my time reconnecting with her and making up for our long month apart. So I haven’t been leaning on Chris all the time and he hasn’t had to bounce back and forth like a yo-yo between me and Julie constantly. I know if she moves out our house plants will suffer as I am a serial plant killer. There are a lot of pros and cons to weigh here. Julie’s autonomy would be more limited if she stays and she would lose the deposits she has already put down on her apartment.

I know Julie hasn’t said anything to Chris yet and if I decide to give it a green light I want to ask him first before telling Julie. Just in case he wants her to move I can be the bad person rather than him, I feel if he is the one to shoot it down she might resent him for it. Damn, why is life so hard when gets going so good?