Hi there, I’m(F30)looking for some advice or to hear from others in a similar situation. My husband(M29)came out bi to me in 2015 and for a few years we discussed the possibilities of being open and exploring our sexuality with others. We started in 2020 with swinging and met 2 couples and 1 single person that were shared experience with together. It was fun but I find it hard to be intimate with people without a connection at first plus I don’t like hookup culture. Since 2021 it has been hard to meet other people plus my work schedule and his became super stressful. Since fall 2022 I approached him about being open but seeing other people separately in a casual relationship/ fwb way. Again he was fine with it and I with him seeing others. Our agreement was to be safe and let the other person know where we are. He stopped trying to meet people and became uninterested about 2 years ago in the lifestyle. I have been able to meet some people online and until recently started going on dates and being more comfortable with talking not just online. I went on a date with someone I met and we hit it off. Last week we were intimate together at his place. Matt knew I was spending time with him but he never wanted to ask more about it and didn’t question anything. I was thinking everything was good, I told him where I’m at and I followed safe sex practices. On my way home that evening he blew up and jealously, betrayal, feeling like I was replacing him came out. We were up most of the night upset but having a civil conversation about it and I wished he told me sooner that he was having problems with me seeing other people. I gave him a few days to think over things and asked the person I met if he can give us some space for the immediate future, which he was very nice about and was understanding. Today I tried to talk to my husband about it and see what we need to improve on to communicate this better and he immediately is like no more we’re done, can’t do this anymore and can’t see other people. I told him we can have more space/ time to work this out but being ENM is a big part of who I am. I am really upset since I now have to tell the person I met hey I can’t see you anymore when that’s not what I want. I am looking for a counselor that we can go to but I can’t seem to convince him why I want to still be ENM and somehow find middle ground that he’s comfortable with. Clearly we are new to this but I feel awful about the whole thing and am not sure what the next step is.