Hi all, some background - my SO (28m) and I (27m) have been together for about 3 years and we’ve lived together for about a year. We’ve been sexually open for our entire relationship. We are closed romantically.

I have no problems with him having sexual experiences outside of me - in fact, I actively encourage it.

What has been tripping me up lately (but I can’t quite pinpoint why) is the fact that he always prefers to have his sex partners over to our house. We are both “home bodies” and we like to be home most of the time. These are almost always spur-of-the-moment encounters so it gives me no time to make plans with a friend to get out of the house myself. Our house is not that big so I end up hearing them during sex, even when I have headphones on. I find it slightly uncomfortable and he doesn’t understand why and in my POV he actually gets kind of irritated when I bring it up, because he feels limited/restricted by my request for activities to happen elsewhere when possible.

I don’t want to restrict him - and I occasionally have partners over the house as well, but I always try to make it happen elsewhere first before I ask my SO if our place is okay.

I’m just wondering about experiences other open couples have had with this after they started living together, how I can feel less uncomfortable in the moment, etc. I do not consider myself a cuck. Again, I’m really not interested in establishing a boundary where our house would be off-limits, as I don’t feel that’s fair to either of us. I recognize he is not actually doing anything wrong, I just want to work on my emotions related to this.

Thanks!