I (28F) and my husband (38M) have been discussing ENM. This is because I’m very very bisexual and I’ve had some intense feelings lately of wanting to be with a woman. My husband has been completely supportive and is going at my pace. I even went on a date with a woman this past Thursday just to see if I really wanted to do this. I felt uneasy before because I have such deep love for my husband and even though he knew, I felt like I was stepping out on him. I went to the date, and it was amazing. She is amazing and I want to continue seeing her.

But…

I of course know I can’t have my cake and eat it too, so I know my husband should be able to date too. But why does the thought make me almost nauseous? He isn’t in the least bit jealous. He says if it was a guy he would be, but given I’m looking for only women, he doesn’t feel jealous at all. But of course, he would be dating other women, and the thought of sharing him with another woman makes me feel sick. Why can’t I feel the same way he does? Why can’t I not feel jealous?

Please don’t be rude. I really need seen advice on what I can do to feel better about doing this. Should we just not pursue this?