Husband and I are ENM. I recently started seeing a guy who identifies as Poly. It’s my first time seeing someone that lives in the same city. Everything is going well, we’ve had about 6 meet ups in the last couple of weeks and they’ve all been insanely enjoyable.

My only issue is that after a meet up, even one where we’ve both very obviously had a particularly enjoyable and passionate time, he is always silent on text until I follow up after a day or so.

I’m aware I lean towards a slightly anxious attachment type so I try to take a beat before making assumptions or looking for validation. But I’m wondering, would it really be that “needy” to want just a short text or something after the fact saying “hey, had a great time, looking forward to next time”?

I’m probably just gonna raise it with him the next time we’re chatting but also wondering how to phrase it. I’m thinking something like “hey, I really enjoy our meet ups, but I’d really appreciate a little feedback or quick check in after the fact, so I know you had a good time too” how does that sound? Like I know for a fact he’s had a good time, but I guess I just need to hear it.