I'll try to make this long story short.

This is my first time dating men in a very long time. the game is NOT like it used to be. Instant satisfaction is on a whole new level. I usually tell men up front my relationship status and my boundaries. Of course they act like theyre into it. but the connection never gets any deeper than sex. Like, wtf happened to actually getting to know someone?! Even if i was single i thinki would still be dealing with these bohemoths with no sense of decensy or respect for women!

Needless to say i was too dissappointed and jaded by the sad outcomes of the dating scene until 8 months ago when i met my bf, Kevin

My husband knows about all my dating shit shows. We always share our highs and lows with our dating experiences (married non-monog dating seperate) so he knows about Kevin too.

Kevin(27) is a bit younger than me (35) so i didnt take him as serious. But we liked each other and eventually became more than just casual FBs. The sex b/w Kevin and i is 9/10!

Recently, Kevin and I were talking about poly lifestyles. He seemed open to the idea, but in the end said he didnt like the idea of sharing me with anyone else.

"i dont want no other man knowing something about you that I dont know" , he said.

Not to mention Kevin dropped the "i'm really falling for you" bomb on me too!

My husband says to ghost the guy. but that just seems cruel in an already f*kd up predicament. I want to tell the truth, but i also dont want to lose Kevin. He's one of the few genuine guys still left. how can i tell explain myself to him at this point?