I (34m) matched with a girl (31f) on an app a few months ago. She just got out of a long term relationship and wanted to try being poly.

Anyways long story short I’ve fallen in love with her and am trying to come to terms with being in an open relationship. We have a great relationship with each other. Great communication, great sex, and I’m really comfortable with her and am not afraid to be vulnerable.

The problem is I’m at a low point in my life where I don’t feel too confident in myself. And I’m not very social and am very introverted so it’s really hard for me to meet women outside of OLD.

Therefore I’m at a stage where I really want to focus on my career and self improvement and it won’t leave me any time and energy to find or court another partner.

My partner currently isn’t seeing anyone else either but me imagining her being romantic or sexual with someone else makes me feel uncomfortable and anxious.

So I just want some different perspectives and opinions. Do I feel this way because I’m still in my honeymoon phase with her? Or because I don’t feel confident about myself and am not ready to date anyone else atm? Or is it normal to feel this way at first and will I get used to it?

I really want to make this work because a) I really love this person b) I know that after 2-3 years of being in a relationship I will be much more enthusiastic about dating other women.