My husband and I decided to experiment with polysexuality. We have a great monogamous marriage but our sex life was stale, so we wanted to spice things up. Before we started, he laid down a rule that I happily agreed to: no romances, only sex, and just don't hide things from him or lie. So I haven't.

We've been chatting with people online and I found someone that I really super connected with. He blew my socks off so I told my husband I wanted to play with him. From the beginning and throughout, I shared my thoughts and feelings with my husband about what was going on with the guy. We haven't met up in person but we plan to. And that's where we are today, as I post this.

What I discovered was that while I tried very hard not to make my sharing seem like rubbing my husband's nose in my excitement over another man, it happened anyway. He's freaked out a few times with insecurity and we had to talk it all through, reassure him emphatically that I would not fall in love with the other guy or leave him. In hindsight, I overshared. But... I don't see a kind middle ground between hiding/lying and sharing details that would make him feel like shit.

We're going to have some sessions with a pro counselor and I'm sure that will help. Has anybody here encountered a similar situation?