I know this isn’t specific to ENM- but I would love the input from the community.

So personally as a 29 yr old female, I have been brainwashed to believe that to be attractive, you must have a certain body. And sadly, my body was never in line with those things. The early 2000s showed tiny fragile bodies, with minimal curves. I watched it all as I started hitting puberty and my hips were getting wider and wider. I always had a little excess fat around my belly button area, so I never had a flat stomach. Weight was a constant thought. A constant worry. My entire life. What I would see in the mirror was always bigger than what I was in reality. Anyway- now I’m a mom and weigh the most i ever have, but I’m not huge and I’ve always had an proportionate hourglass shape. But I have rolls and stretch marks, a pancake belly and jiggly thighs. There’s been many men in my life who have expressed that they love these things about my body. But it’s still so hard to believe. I almost make myself believe they are just being nice. And I wonder how could they really like this body? When they could have someone with a perfect body? I know it’s fucked up, lol.