So my partner of 3 years and I are full-time digital nomads in a nonmonogamous relationship. Normally things are great! We travel all over and are figuring out how to do the nonmonogamy thing while navigating moving around, occasional dorms, and other travellers.

The issue is, his sex drive has tanked for the last few months. We went from having sex every other day to maybe once or twice a month. Yesterday I tried to initiate some sex in the morning in our hotel room and he wasn't into it, and I couldn't help it, I burst into tears. I am so unhappy with our sex life and I feel rejected, undesirable and SO sexually frustrated. Even when we do have sex it's not quite doing it for me as he doesn't like giving oral, my preferred method for coming (whole different issue). I told him how unhappy I was, and he felt a bit bad but said his brain has just been occupied by other things lately. He isn't the best communicator and had given me no indication of this before. Plus before he met me he had a lower sex drive, and maybe he's reverting back to that. I've been crying on and off for two days now and have seemingly lost control of my emotions.

After I told him this, his solution was for us to travel separately for a week so I could meet some travellers and hopefully hook up with someone. Which, yeah sure that will be great, but also I miss my partner and want to have sex with him too! Maybe I am being greedy as an open relationship seems perfect for this situation. I'm also concerned that when we do have sex it will be pressured or awkward after my latest outburst. I also am worried because I think I would be really hurt and unhappy if he hooked up with someone else now, which is not how we have worked in the past. I am just so unhappy and want to have sex with my partner!

Does anyone have any advice or tips for how to manage my expectations? I am just so hurt and raw right now. Did I overreact or am being unfair? I genuinely would love some feedback.