Dear all. My partner (31F) and I (33M) are in an open relationship and although we are determined to make it work have been hitting a few stumbling blocks. We have been open for about 8 months now out of a 5 year relationship. We often have quite intense conversations in relation to dating / seeing other people etc and it does get quite tiring and emotional and obviously steals a bit from our usual amazing connection. My partner has had some nice dates while I’ve been a little less successful.

We do try and have a regular RADAR session to talk about things in a calm manner but often intense conversations just flare up at other inconvenient times. Does anyone have any advice for dealing with this. Quite often the conversations are fairly repeated and based around some rumination's I’ve been having in my head (working on it though through therapy). So I know a lot of the recommendations will be for me to really think about what I ‘need’ to say and if it really is important to voice this thing at that exact moment in time (like in the bath or literally before sleep).

I do trust this process and my partner and I are very strong together just wondering if anyone has experienced the same thing.