Does anyone have advice for a married man who is in a recently opened poly relationship that can't seem to make any connections?

For some background, we restarted our poly journey 3 months ago but this time we date apart and I've only had one person say yes to a date only to find out that it wasn't a good fit. Apps have been a bust, two poly mixers have been a bust and although I put myself out there and consider myself somewhat attractive I can't seem to find anyone interested in me?

Yes I know my journey will be harder but I do feel like I may be doing something wrong? 3 months and one date? My self esteem is starting to take a blow and now it's just making me sad.

Please be kind... I know reddit is a double edged sword but I really could use some uplifting as I struggle with my journey.

On feeld for context, tried okcupid and live in NYC.

38 married man from Puerto Rico. He/him not bi but also not 100% straight... For those who care