Hello and welcome!

Right now, there is only one active moderator and I'm a grad student, so please be patient with modmail. I've been involved with queer culture and activist work online and in-person since my early to mid teens. I'd love to talk books with you and hope that we'll see some gay art here soon.

Sub avatar: Made by me, might appear in my TeePublic soon

Sub banner: Work in progress (open to suggestions)

Rules:

1.Stay close to topic, flair posts, and read the FAQ

This sub is focused on nonbinary, gender-nonconforming, trans, and butch sapphic issues and experiences. We particularly encourage art, writing, news, history, and sharing knowledge. That knowledge can be how to make a mean tofu scramble as long as it's likely of interest to our focus population.

Do not spam your personal Insta or Patreon. Art posts should contain relevant, non-paywalled art/writing.

We also have an FAQ! I love your questions, but please double check it's not a repeat.

2.Queer inclusivity

We support a bold, beautiful, broad understanding of queerness. If you identify with us and are willing to respect others, you're welcome here. Note that this definition includes aces but not TERFS.

Do not debate people on what label/s you think they are. No whining about bisexual women being butch, no telling trans women you think they should just be dudes, etc. You may describe yourself how you like ("as a dyke"), but respect the ways others wish to be referred to (use correct pronouns, etc).

3.Source art when posting

We can figure out where to watch She-Ra, but finding the fanartist who drew that amazing Catradora pic is harder.

Support creators and give them credit for their work. All art/writing should be sourced - ideally linked, but if you made it, you can just say so if you don't have an Insta/deviantART/art Twitter/whatever to link to.

I don't care if you got it off Pinterest. Reverse Google image search exists. Find who made the art and give them credit for their thing, please.

4.No selfie posts or personal ads outside designated threads

As much as I love to see your beautiful/handsome/gorgeous faces, this is not a selfie sub so please post them somewhere else. Consider r/butchwomen, which could use some love!

This is also not a dating sub. Mods might eventually consider having a weekly megathread where people can comment their R4R's but until then, take it to r/enbydating, r/lesbianr4r, r/q4q, r/t4t...etc

5.No misinformation (unless your post is debunking it)

Science, news, and current events are welcome, but double check your sources to make sure they're not suspicious.

"I can't believe news reporting was so homophobic in the 80's! We've come a long way" is fine. "Transphobe dot bullshit says people are just trans for attention!" makes my ban button finger itchy.

This applies not just to "gender critical" wordbarf but to other topics - COVID-19 is real, vaccines work, beekeepers don't "just kill" the bees every winter, and the Earth is round.

6.No porn

This is not r/dykesgonewild. I don't want to see your genitals - or anybody else's - on here. Nothing pornographic or fetish-y.

Some NSFW, such as artistic nude, FLAIRED sexual/NSFW discussion, or advice on safer sex, is allowed but feel free to ask first if you're not sure.

7.MAYBE memes

Memes are okay on a trial basis. If the sub starts to turn into r/tumblr, mods reserve the right to restrict memes to a certain thread/day of the week or ban them.

Related meme subs: r/ennnnnnnnnnnnbbbbbby, r/nsfwlw, r/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

8.Don’t be a dick

Report this if a user was racist, sexist, xenophobic, antisemitic, some other not-listed kind of bigotry, or was just saying something that was really uncalled for.

No bad-faith arguments, baiting, trolling, insults, etc. If someone breaks a rule, report them and don't respond.

No slithering. If I get the sense that you're trying to get as close to breaking a rule as you can without technically, semantically, whatever, breaking any rules, that breaks THIS rule and I'll boot you 😊