Hi everyone! I’m curious about parenting experiences/tips any of you may have as neurodivergent adults because I STRUGGLE some days. I’m planning to get re-evaluated soon and maybe start some medication to help with executive dysfunction, overstimulation, and burn out. I’m also considering talk therapy to learn some better coping skills.

Anyways, some background info: I’m a 30 year old female, diagnosed with ADHD, generalized anxiety disorder, and medicated for anxiety induced depression as a child/teen. As an adult now, I’m positive I have ASD that went undiagnosed with comorbid ADHD and OCD. I’ve taken the RAADS-R, AQ, and CAT-Q screening assessments online and scored well into the ASD range on all of them. My daughter is 2 and also already showing strong indicators of neurodivergence.

I want my daughter to have the support and understanding I didn’t have when I was younger and I’m trying to use positive/gentle parenting approaches as much as possible. Sometimes though I’m so exhausted and overstimulated that I really have a hard time staying calm. My daughter is very clingy and whiny and I’m overstimulated so easily. When I’m experiencing major executive dysfunction and getting super overstimulated, sometimes I snap at her and raise my voice and then I feel so guilty afterwards! I always make the repair after I lose my cool and apologize and try to explain to her in toddler level language how I was feeling, but I would love to be able to manage myself better and not do this as often.

Any advice?