I have ADHD and I regularly feel like I don't even know how to answer somebody when they ask me about big, abstract emotions like love.

I can tell you if I enjoy spending my time with someone, or if I find them physically attractive. I can tell you whether I care if they are happy.

But that's clearly not what people mean by "love," because if so then that would mean I love the majority of people in my life. I mean, I'm not going to spend time around someone I don't like spending time around. I also think most people are physically attractive, and I want most people to be happy.

If you are talking to a neurotypical about someone you are dating or having sex with, and they ask you, "do you love them?", what information are they actually looking for?

I feel like if I ask them what they mean, I will sound crazy, or they'll label me a sociopath. But I just genuinely don't know how to identify an honest answer.

Does anybody else feel this way, or have any insight on how to honestly answer a question like that without sounding nuts?