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So I (30f) live alone in a fairly quiet mobile home community. I like where I live and get along with most of the neighbors pretty well. We all generally keep an eye out for each other. However, the people living directly next door to me are a constant problem. Theyâre I guess I could call it inconsiderate and entitled? They think they rule the block. There are three adults (20ishf)(25ishm)(60ishm) and two children (2-4m). Every interaction with the adults theyâve been rude and dismissive. Anyway, I mostly can ignore the adults, but the children are another story. I try not to bother with any of it unless it directly impacts me. The children are allowed to run wild on our block most of the time. If thereâs any supervision itâs in the form of an adult sun bathing in the yard. The kids play in the road a ton and have absolutely zero concept of vehicles and roads being dangerous. They wonât move when thereâs a car, they just stare at you. If the adult is confronted about this they act as if itâs your fault for driving on the road⌠where cars belong not children. So, most of the time in the summer the kids are in the yard playing with the hose and a kiddy pool (alone of course. No supervision) and they LOVE to spray that entire side of my house including my air conditioning unit. I normally ignore this but itâs incredibly loud having your windows and siding blasted with a hose constantly. Yesterday I was mowing my lawn and as I got to their side of the yard I caught the kids spraying my house and AC and they almost sprayed me. At first I was annoyed but I let it go because I didnât want to deal with the adult. But when I got around to the front yard my other neighbor stopped me and said itâs ridiculous what I put up with them and that I should say something to them. He saw me trying to mow while dodging the water. So I took his advice and I knocked on the door. The older male answered and I explained that Iâd appreciate it if he could make sure the children didnât spray my house. He scoffed and says, âI doubt it happens as often as you sayâ I said, âI wouldnât have bothered you about it if it wasnât an ongoing issueâ he continued to make lame excuses and saying âitâs just waterâ. I told him itâs loud as hell and disruptive. He didnât care. I walked away as he continued to babble and I went âmhmm okâ and he decided it was appropriate to mock me going âmMmHmmMmâ in a high pitched voice. I immediately spun on my heels and looked him dead in the eye and was like, âreally? Youâre resorting to mocking me?â And he says itâs because âI decided to come over here acting like thatâ I was like âoh no I was politely asking you to manage a situation like an adult.â My demeanor immediately changed. He continues his excuses and all I said as I walked away was, âmaybe just watch the damn kidsâ. Iâm just so over it. I donât know what to do because the community manager has already tried to legally remove them from the park but lost the case over something entirely petty. Weâre stuck with this mess. There are other examples of them being a poor neighbor but Iâll leave it at this for now. What would you do? I feel like such a Karen saying something but Iâm at a loss.
Put up cameras. Hardwired with 24/7 capture are the best. That way you can document whatâs going on with video evidence. Definitely be ready to play the long game. We went a year of battling before we finally got what we wanted. Be prepared to get the police involved, especially if there is an endangerment to kids. As always talk fences make the best neighbors.
If the kids are that young and running unsupervised, especially in the street, I would stay on that. Anything that disturbs your property even if itâs âjust waterâ document that. Donât go over and communicate anymore. They can treat that as both being hostile and harassing. Look for escalation in negative behavior towards you.
In our case it was the neighbor complaining our dogs would always attack the fence when he was out and that they were vicious. On camera we were able to record multiple events in which he kicked the fence to try and anger the dogs. He would also yell and scream at them to get their attention. In the videos it showed them ignoring him and no barking at all. We also had a good microphone on the camera and could catch him cussing because they wouldnât react.
At some point it may come down to hiring a lawyer. Our was able to help us settle the smaller issues outside of court. At this point itâs just mostly gathering enough evidence to show there is an issue and being able to back up what you are saying.
Hopefully everything works out for you. I can definitely sympathize with the stress this causes.
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It sucks that it has to be this way. It took us a year just to prove we were the victims. It was also gratifying to know we did things the right way.