I’m a 48 year-old married man located in the northern suburbs of Detroit. I have done something like this before. I’m not an expert, but I am also not an affair virgin. What I am looking for is that intimacy, spark, excitement, and frequency.

I’m seeking a connection with someone who truly understands the delicate balance of maintaining real-life priorities while cultivating a meaningful secondary relationship. If this resonates with you, and you meet the following criteria, I’d love to hear from you:

Local Presence: I am interested in looking for someone who is around the metro Detroit area or possibly Grand Rapids area. Even tho I live on the East side, I am in GR 4-5 times a month. Including overnight stays. 😉

Age Compatibility: Ideally, you’re in a similar age range (40s–55’ish). Shared life experiences and maturity matter.

Married & Understanding: I’m looking to connect with someone who’s also married. Shared circumstances make for a safer, more empathetic dynamic. Including kids which are grown or older

Experience with APs: If you’ve had an affair partner before, you’ll likely understand the complexities, boundaries, and nuances of this type of connection.

Conversational Chemistry: Great conversations are vital. I’m seeking someone who engages thoughtfully and puts in equal effort to build a genuine rapport. I am highly educated and intelligence is sexy.

A Little About Me:

Interests range from spontaneous outings, hiking, mountain biking, or maybe just grab a cocktail at a dive bar or check out the newest eclectic restaurant and discuss our days. I try to be understanding and empathetic of others.

I also find tattoos /piercings, cooking, reading, running, nerding out over what you’re passionate about, travel, and of course a little kinky side as very very hot/interesting too

I am attractive and I have stayed in shape. I’m not a gym rat but going to the gym is part of my life. I do not have a six pack anymore, but I do not have a “dad bod” either. Unfortunately pizza is my spirit animal.

what I am potentially looking for

Someone who is passionate about their interests, successful, and intelligent. Someone who is able to teach me new things. I don’t have a particular body type, ethnicity, or race I am attracted to. Initial physical attraction is needed and this will grow over time. I’m also not adverse to catching feelings, but not looking to change anyone’s situation

My turn-offs? Bad hygiene & Trump supporters

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk, any of this sounds interesting send me a DM and I’ll swoon you with my dad jokes and poor selection of memes.